On DomainingTips, I frequently say things people don’t want to hear. I run this blog so that I can share my honest opinions about matters I consider important and love the fact that I get to make the rules. I’m not here to tell people what they want to hear, I want to tell people what I think they should hear. Today’s post won’t represent an exception.
Everyone already covered the Adam Dicker drama from the “what Adam Dicker did” perspective, so there’s little point in me investing time/energy to say things like “he made promises he didn’t keep”, “he lied to people” and so on. Yes he did, this horse has been beaten to death. You already know everything you need to know about what Adam Dicker did wrong.
Today, I’ll talk about what a lot of the people he owes money to did wrong because in my opinion, the most important lesson of all this drama is being overlooked.
In any industry, people come and go.
Some will prove to be trustworthy, others… not so much.
The main mistake a lot of those who worked with Adam Dicker made, in my opinion at least, is blindly believing someone just because he was perceived as an authority figure.
They conveniently ignored the “if something seems too good to be true, it most likely is” adage and believed promises which were obviously unrealistic. Some were beginners, fair enough but even as a beginner or should I say especially as a beginner, arming yourself with a healthy dose of common sense is paramount.
Stay far away from developers who promise you the world.
Stay far away from those who put “get rich quick”-ish offers on the table.
… or to put it differently, control your greed.
People want all sorts of things.
To lose weight.
To make money.
To be happy.
… but if possible, they want an *easy* solution.
Let’s forget about Adam Dicker for a moment.
Let’s assume John Smith is a popular figure in the domaining world.
If he writes a book about making a decent living through hard work, x people will buy it.
If he writes a book about getting rich quick, x*x*x*x people will buy it.
The same principle is valid when it comes to the other things people want.
Tell people how to lose weight by working hard and being disciplined and you’ll have a hard time finding followers. Promise them a Hollywood-level physique by next month and without hard work/discipline and they’ll buy whatever it is you’re selling with both hands. Shut up and take my money.
This, my friends, is the most important lesson which needs to be learned: the fact that if you let your desire to *insert goal here* quickly take over (lose weight quickly, make money quickly and so on) and blind you, people will take advantage of you.
And while those people are obviously to blame as well, I place most of the blame on you.
As should you.
If you were burned by someone, please don’t make the mistake of adopting a “victim” mentality and absolving yourself of any and all responsibility. You’re just deluding yourself if you do. By all means, do whatever you can to get your money back, take legal action if you can. But acknowledge your guilt in all of this, don’t conveniently overlook the most important aspect of this entire situation.
Whenever something goes wrong, start by asking yourself what you could have done differently.
Admit you were wrong or you will never learn the lessons which make the difference between getting on the right path and swimming in a sea of self-deceit by rationalizing away anything which would place even some of the responsibility on your shoulders.
I know I’m not telling people what they want to hear but c’est la vie.
I don’t run DomainingTips to be popular, I blog so that I can write about the things I consider meaningful. Some people will appreciate my approach, others won’t, this is something I have no control over.